January 13, 2009

Finding The Humor Amidst The Sorrow
As most of you know my Mom suffers from Alzheimer's Disease. I have written several posts about it which you can find here and here. With each day comes new challenges, as well as new sorrows. My sister called me this past weekend and told me she was going to tell me about a conversation she had with my Mama, but she didn't want it to upset me. "Oh, no," I thought, "what is it now?" She then proceeded to relay the conversation that took place. Instead of crying over it I am going to try to find the humor.
Mama: "Betsy, can I ask you something?"
Betsy: "Sure, Mama."
Mama: "I'm not really married to that man named Jim am I?" (Jim is my Dad)
Betsy: "Why, yes, you are, Mama. Why do you ask?"
Mama: " I don't think I am, because I never would have married a man as grouchy as he is."
Oh my goodness, sometimes you just have to find the humor or you would start weeping and never be able to stop.
Graphic courtesy of : Allposters


Jackie said...

Thank you for sharing this story Susan. You are so right sometimes it is better to look for the humor.

God bless.

Brenda@CoffeeTeaBooks said...

That made me laugh. I often look at my husband and wonder how I married someone so grouchy, hehehe.

Both my mother and one of my sisters were mentally confused for awhile before they passed away. It was much harder for me to see them that way than it was to see how their physical body deteriorated.

I pray that you and your dad have strong faith and walk in grace during this time.

Lallee said...

I had a similar conversation with a dear friend who wasn't sure Dick was her husband. The conversation developed and I ended with a tease that she just needed to be careful not to have more than one husband at a time. It helped to add the humor for her. I see my MIL developing Alzheimer or dementia now. So sad.

jen said...

You are right Susan, Keep finding the humor... and that really is a cute story.=0) Thank you for sharing it with us. Prayers for you and your family. Jennifer

Happy @ Home said...

I have had many similar conversations with my mom in the last few weeks. When it first happened I was horrified. Horror gave way to sadness and now I try to replace sadness with humor. There have been times when I have to look the other way or I will laugh. I feel sure that my mom would laugh right along with me if she knew what she was saying. Alzheimer's is such an emotionally exhausting disease that if we don't look for the humor we could cry constantly.


Nanna K said...

Your right it is best to look on the bright side. I so often visit with Mama Annie and I have to turn away to hide the tears. Alzheimer's is such an emotionally draining disease and I guess the best way to deal with it is to laugh when you can.
God Bless,
Nanna K

Lura said...

I work in a nursing home, and finding the humor is a necessity. You mourn the loss of the person they were, but you also get to know this new person. Their honesty is very candid, much like a child's.

Mrs. U said...

Oh Susan!!! I LOVE that you found the humor in this!!! Sounds like she has a bit of humor in her, too!! It is a cute story, by the way, and definitely one you and your mother can have a good laugh over in Heaven one day!!!! :)

Mrs. U

Jenn said...

Big hugs to you!!!

Anonymous said...

I am sorry you are going through this with your Mother. It must be very rough. I heard a story of a women who's Mother had Alzhrimers. She said her Mother no longer realizes she is a mother but usually talks of herself as much younger. They have tea parties together. Her Mother says she is 11 one day, a new bride on another. Her mother talks her of the life she is living with her own Mother and father and family and she has found out from other relatives the stories are true. She is learning a lot from her mother she would have never known she said. She just plays along with where ever her Mother is in time as it brings her Mother joy to be in those days of yesterday. Not all are blessed to have a loved one with speech still or in a good mood most of the time. I just thought this was a precious story though. Jody