October 12, 2007

A Broken Heart
As a Mom it is always so hard to see your children suffer. When they are little and they fall down a band aid and a kiss to their "boo boo" is all they need to make everything better again. Unfortunately, when your children grow up they have much bigger problems and a lot of times they are problems that you can't fix for them. As a Mom it is so hard to sit by and watch your children hurting and suffering, especially when you know in your heart that this is the kind of hurt that a band aid can't heal. My Miss Bonnie is going through such a hurt right now. Her broken heart is over her first true love ~ the man that she felt she would one day marry. Along with her broken heart also comes broken hopes and dreams. She and I have been in continual prayer over this situation. She has come to "know" you through reading the comments here and she asked if I would post this on my blog today. We would both so appreciate if you lift my baby up in prayer. Also, any words of wisdom or experiences that you would like to share with her would be most welcome. Thank you so much dear friends.
Much love,
Susan P.


LBP said...

Oh how well I know! I have a soon to be 16 year old son, who is having "girl" problems too. It is heart breaking for me to see him so distraught.

I will say a little prayer for your Bonnie too.



Mrs. C said...

Praying for the Lord to comfort, guide, and direct Miss Bonnie.

Proverbs 3:5,6 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Mrs. C

Daffodil Hill said...

My own daughter went through this, too. It was terribly painful for her, and I think I cried almost as much as she did. We had really thought she was going to marry that young man, but God had something better in mind! Less than a year later, He brought her soul mate into her life, someone much better for her than the original guy. It was hard to see at the time, but God knows the future and works things out for the best. I'm sure He has beautiful plans for your Bonnie, too. : )

Mimi said...

Miss Bonnie,
I will pray for your broken heart...
I know it feels like it is beyond repair right now... and your tears will soften the pain...
you can pray for God to ease the pain, heal your heart, and fill you will joy again...HE WILL DO JUST THAT...
Right now you do not want to hear that it will all work out for the best... but honey it really will... God has a special someone already picked out for you, and you just have to give yourself time and permission to feel love again...
remember I am praying for your heart to heal and your face to smile again.

Storybook Woods said...

I am so sorry Miss. Bonnie, please know the Lord only has the best planned for you. So if this young man is not it, it is becuase there is soo much better out there for you. I know that does not take away your pain. But one day you will be able to look back and see how God carried you through this time. Blessings Clarice

~Becca~Bluebird Rose said...

Dear Bonnie, I know it hurts very much right now...... and it's hard to accept that this didn't work out as you'd hoped and planned. But God knows "The Big Picture".... He knows who is the one for you, the very one you have prayed about.
Please know we are thinking of you....
And to Susan, as a mother, I know how hard this is for you too..... Just hold onto each other.

Candy said...

{{{big hug}}}
Im sad to hear of your broekn heart Miss Bonnie :(
I will remember you in prayer tonight.
It will get better..


La Tea Dah said...

Praying for Bonnie --- with much empathy. We went through this with dear son --- it's tough to know how to mend a broken heart. He came through it in time and with lots of prayers. Remind Bonnie that you have been praying for her future husband since she was born --- and that 'he' is out there waiting for her, even more handsome and magnificent than she can even imagine! It might help take some of the sting out of the sorrow.

Hugs to you both!

Adrienne said...

Oh, I have been there and remember how much it hurt. I thought I would die from the pain. But, Bonnie, God will be very close and hold you close in His arms. He knows and feels your pain. I am praying for you.

I know this doesn't help right now but I want you to know that God brought the most wonderful, young man into my life and now, 36 years later I can't imagine what life would have been without him. He was truly the 'perfect' person in God's plan.

For now just rest in the comfort and love of God and your family.

Susan, I know how hard it is to watch your daughter hurt. We want to do something to make it better. The best thing you can do is be there to love her, listen and pray. I am praying for you, too.


picketfencemom said...

As Father Tim would say, "Consider it done!" I'm so very sorry, and I pray the Lord will bring her joy out of this sadness and provide peace for her heart (and her Mama's). He knows the plans He has for her, and we never know what or 'who' is right around the corner! But He does!
Lots of hugs and much prayer,

Brenda@CoffeeTeaBooks said...

I know it doesn't help the hurt but I always told my daughter that God has THE perfect man for you. (He is not perfect, just perfect for her...).

She also went through such hurt and confusion. Now she couldn't imagine being married to anyone but her beloved J.

There is a great Garth Brooks song called unanswered prayers about the girl he wanted to marry so much, who had broken his heart. He meets her again later with his wife and children with him. That is why he thanks God for not answering that particular prayer.

It DOES hurt but Jesus was also rejected by those He loved. As we run to him, He knows exactly how we are feeling with the pains of rejection and loss.

Seek God, draw close to Him, and He will lead Mr. Right to Miss Bonnie (whom we are already fond of even though we haven't met, I'm certain others feel as I do that we know her!).

In the meantime, do lots of crying, write dreadful poetry, and eat chocolate.

Julian said...

I hve had lots of thoes. I am now married again, with a wonderful husband. I want to encourage Miss Bonnie,
God has a plan for her life. I know exactly where she is at, and what she is going through. When everything stops feeling so raw and fresh, ask her to take a different perspective.
Perhaps God was keeping her from making a huge mistake. Maybe He actually is saving her from something. She might not see it now, but I promise, one day, she will. For right now, I would gently tell her to trust Gods character. God loves her, is for her, has plans for her, and will never fail or dissapoint her. The man she will marry will be way better than this one. Not to judge, but God ALWAYS has something better, far better than we can even begin to fathom. She loved this boy, yes, but when God brings the man He chooses for Miss Bonnie, she will see how much better it is, and how totally trustworthy He is. Im telling you from my heart, I have had to learn this many many times. God has given things, and taken things away. But I have started to finally learn, that Gods character can be completely trusted. And Miss Bonnie, its not just concerning men. If you can get this early, you will be greatly blessed. I know where you are, I know the pain and dissappointment you are feeling. Turn that dissappointment over to Jesus, and learn to trust Him as your everything. This is so important, even when you are
married. I am praying for you, and even though I dont know you, I care about what happens in your life. I promise that God has the right Christian man for you. Youll see, and it will be greater than you ever imagined.
Christina Gomez

Katie said...

Dear Bonnie, I'm praying for you. I have had a broken heart before ~ and in hind sight of those times, I can see now that God used those situations to create me into the person I am today. I look back at the relationships I took part of before I married the man I did today - and in each one, I learned something new and different that has helped me in our marriage. It's hard though - now - to see the "silver lining" in the situation, but rest assured, that the One who wants to be your first "true" love - Jesus Christ - will guide you into perfect peace now and in the days to come. Just remember God has a special plan just for you - and we don't always understand why things work out (or don't work out) the way they do, but I can tell you that God will use this situation to draw you closer to Him and make you a stronger person in Christ and mold you into the wife He wants you to be for the man He has chosen for you. Savor the good memories you have made, try not to let disappointment or discouragement take you over, and look forward to what the Lord has in store for you from this point forward. Trust!! and ask God for comfort. I'll be lifting you up in prayer to the one who can give you peace that surpasses all understanding... When I am anxious, I really find comfort in reading Philippians 4 and the Book of Psalms.


Cheryl (Copper's Wife) said...

Oh, Miss Bonnie....praying that the Lord would mend your broken heart....Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

Lura said...

I also was going to mention the Garth Brooks song about unanswered prayers! It really is true! (Been there done that). Praying that her heart will heal quickly!

thehomespunheart said...

Oh, Miss Bonnie - I am so sorry! I will be praying for you. It doesn't seem like too long ago - that I was praying through situations like this for myself. God is faithful and when our desires are in line with His, He will fulfill them (Psalm 37:4).

Sending hugs and prayers your way today.


Donna said...

My encouragement to you would be that God is sovereign and He knows what is best for you my dear sister. If this man is not the one that God has for you than please know that our heavenly Father has a man that is a perfect match for you out there. He promises this to His children: Jer 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." He loves you Bonnie and only wants the best for you. Always remember that.

MyHeartIsAlwaysHome said...

Having your heart broken is such a hard thing to deal with! I have been there. I know it is hard to swallow now, but sometime soon you will meet the man God has in mind for you. You will then see that having your heart broken was part of His plan for you to cherish Mr. Right even more!

If I lived closer I would drop by with some brownies, a chick flick movie and we would have a good long cry!

I will say a prayer for you!

Sharon Kay said...

Miss Bonnie......... Oh how I remember my first love........many years ago. It was not ment to be and the lord has other things in store for you. Take one day at a time and in his time and not ours the right one will come along.

Jodi said...

((Susan)) ~ I am so sorry ... it is so hard to see our children hurting!

((Miss Bonnie)) ~ Praying for you, dear one. The Lord will ease your hurts, and in time reveal His plans which will be more wonderful than anything imaginable by man. Cling to our precious Lord. He loves you so much and offers the very best comfort of all.

Anonymous said...

Hi Miss Bonnie-

Your mom posted this prayer request a few days ago and I am only seeing it now (the 15th.) I don't know if you are feeling any better or not at this point. If you are like me, you are not the least bit better at all and maybe even a bit worse- definitely struggling. (I hope you are not like me!!) Still, I wanted to tell you some things I learned when I was where you are that will hopefully be of use to you.

First, there is nothing for it right now but to go through the pain. Most likely, folks prayers are not going to mitigate that much. Some things just hurt like sam hill and that's all there is to it. This, I think, is one of those things. So if you are hoping to find the pain mitigated by prayers and it doesn't happen that way don't be discouraged. Alas! If only there was such a thing as emotional anesthesia!! (Legitimate anesthesia, I mean. Not alcohol or drugs and such.) Still, our God is the God of all comfort and will see to it that you are comforted, if not anesthetized.

On the up side, if handled correctly the pain will pass, just as in a physical injury. I found the very best way to get to the other side is simply to allow the hurt to hurt. Trying to get it to go away somehow never did work for me. Really, it only frustrated me and basically made things worse. :(

Another thing to avoid at all costs is to draw conclusions about your future from this: "I'll never be happy again," "God doesn't have anyone for me," "I'm going to be miserable for life!" etc. Personally, I found those kind of thoughts completely unavoidable and irrefutable. NOTHING anyone tried to say to me (God loves me, has a purpose for me, will bring good out of it, has someone for me, etc.) made the least difference at the time, even though they were completely right.

Finally, as I'm sure you already know, God has a real purpose for pain in our lives and will indeed make this very much worth your while eventually. Some things can only be gained through pain. The pain will pass but the good thing God brings out of it will remain and be yours forever!

So to sum up, the best thing to do is to rest in the Lord as best you can, let yourself hurt, don't think too far ahead, and don't be impatient with the healing process. God does all things perfectly, including the things that require us to hurt.

Definitely feeling your pain,


"But He knows the way I take; when He has tried me I shall come forth as gold." Job 23:10.

Mindy said...

My prayers are with you in this situation. My daughter has been through this as well...and while it hurts so much now...with time and prayer it will lesson. I pray God will show Himself strong on your behalf. Blessings and gentle hugs to you both...xo

Karen said...

Oh it seems I'm a bit late here, but I'd like to add my two cents worth....for what it's worth.
Miss Bonnie, so many of us have been there, and it probably does not help much right now, to tell you that there may be something else HE has for you, that may be so much better than you could hope for. But it is true. I've seen it happen many times.
I will pray for your heart to be comforted during this time.
Blessings and hugs to you and to your sweet mama.

Cathy said...

Dear Susan, I'm sorry, and I know it hurts you so to see your sweet daughter being hurt so badly.

Dear Miss Bonnie, I know how it feels to have a broken heart. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and He will help you and comfort you. He will put you in the path of just the right man He has for you. You are a special child of God, and he loves you with an everlasting love. He has good plans for you to give you a future and a hope.

Yellow Rose Arbor said...

Dear Susan, and Bonnie,
I know exactly how you are feeling. I've been through this myself, and a few times with my daughter. Each time it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. The second time it happened with my daughter with another young man, I was so angry and so tempted to send him an email, but I didn't (thank goodness!) Six weeks later he came back (with a ring!) and said he had made a big mistake! They married six months later! That was almost six years ago. Today they have a precious 1-year-old little boy, and they are all very happy!

For you whatever happens, the Lord will come through for you! Two days ago I posted a prayer and devotional (by Joel Osteen) about waiting and God working behind the scenes. You may want to read it!

In Christian Love,

Yellow Rose Arbor

Carolyne said...

Dear Miss Bonnie~ Our love reaches you even though miles apart....God's loving heart is right there beside you.
It may be so hard to believe that things will be better in awhile......it just seems to take so-o-o-o long when you're going through it.
Remember the story of how diamonds are made?.....beginning with most the most common of substances, under extreme heat and pressure....something beautiful *will* emerge. Of course it won't take so-o-o long...it just feels that way!
You will think back to all these happenings and realize the Someone who created you walked with you and had a better plan all along.

Brenda :D said...

I just wanted to add my prayers...I have two daughters (19, & 18)...who are attending Bible college. As much of a romantic as I am, I still yearn for them to be set free from any relationship that might hinder them from fulfilling the call that God has placed on their lives. May Miss Bonnie be comforted and may she know that the one worth waiting for is being prepared for her at this very moment!

Lallee said...

I am late reading this post, but Bonnie, please know you are in my prayers. God's plan is a perfect one. Sometimes it matches ours and sometimes it doesn't, but His is best when they differ. He heals our wounds, turns ashes into beauty, and uses us with our broken experiences to tenderly love the next broken heart.

Hugs to you and your mom,